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Women are complicated creatures!  There is no one foreplay move that works on all women nor do all women like the same things!  What worked for your last girl might not work with your current girl – and that can be super frustrating if all you want to do is please her. (Oh, and that should be your main goal).

Although women are all different, here are some foreplay tips at work for most women most of the time…

Foreplay Tip #1 – Worship Her

You can do this anytime, all the time.  Make her feel like the most important sexiest women in the world!  Show her that you have never been with a more perfect woman.  Praise her body, in every way.  From her eyes to her boobs. You need to make her feel like a million dollars and let he know you feel like the luckiest man in the world to be able to touch her and kiss her.

Foreplay Tip #2 – Tease Her

Do not go straight for the honey!  Spend some time opening the jar.  IN other words, don’t go from kissing to sex right away, take your time and get her turned on.

Women need a lot more foreplay and longer foreplay then guys do so remember that even if you are ready to go she might need more kissing, more touching more more more! But the more you do the better it will feel to her because the longer you wait to have sex the more turned on she will be!  So tease her!

Even if she starts to beg, build her anticipation and really get her ready for you.

Foreplay Tip #3 – Go Down On Her

You know how much you love a good old bj? Well, she too will love a little tongue action.  Did you know the clitoris only purpose is for pleasure?  It has no other use except to make women feel amazing.  So spend some time and lick her, suck her, flick her etc.

If you don’t know what she likes, then have her show you on your palm.  Or ask her!  Some women push men away from giving them oral but that is normally because she hasn’t had someone really show her a good time down there, you could be the guy to do it!!

Foreplay Tip #4 – Engage ALL Her Senses

Don’t just touch her, talk to her too.  I do not just mean dirty talk, although that is a plus!  But be romantic with your words, you don’t need to spout off poetry, just say some amazing things about her!  And how amazing she is!  Along the same lines as that, tell her how turned on she is making you and how you want so badly to be inside her.

Foreplay Tip #5 – Be Enthusiastic And Passionate About Her

Don’t just rub up against her with a hard on.

Treat your woman like she is the most amazing women ever and you are the luckiest man to be having sex with her.  Make her feel like a million and she will give it all back to you tenfold.

Foreplay Tip #6 – Use Toys

So many men have hang ups about using toys. It doesn’t mean you don’t know what you’re doing or that she doesn’t like doing that stuff with you. All it means is that they are hot and it’s a great foreplay technique. Just having the balls to bring them in to the bedroom makes you an automatic stud. And it’s not a bad thing, it’s a good thing. That thing has batteries so it can go forever, so why not let it do all the heavy lifting and then slide on in and reap all the rewards!

Chicks dig that 50 shades of Grey stuff. Bringing toys into the bedroom has got to be my #1 suggestion for hottest female foreplay tip on the planet. There are so many different kinds of toys, so many different applications, as well as the ability to use several at the same time, either for the sake of doing it or to fulfill or explore a specific fantasy, that to avoid using them is to do so at your own risk.

Foreplay Tip #7 – Be Present

This is another super hot foreplay technique. Tantra is a good way to explore this with your partner as well as practice on your own. But in terms of hot foreplay tricks for women, it doesn’t get much hotter.

Make her feel like she is the only woman on Earth. That you have to have her or you will die. Ache or her. Make sure she knows this. Be willing to fight for her and be there. When you listen, really listen. When she asks you to do something, do it. And do it well. Basically, the hottest foreplay tip for a woman is to be the kind of lover that makes all her friends hate her. Why do they hate her, because she has you, and they don’t. That is the hottest foreplay tip for women. Ever.

Source: https://loveandsexanswers.com/the-7-best-foreplay-moves-to-really-turn-her-on/

This article was written by Amanda Kohr on SexWithEmily.com. To read the full article, please visit http://sexwithemily.com/5-ways-to-maximize-orgasms/

Real talk: orgasms are the best. In addition to physically feeling amazing, a solid orgasm can help decrease stress, promote relaxation, and overall just leave us in a better mood. Still, like snowflakes, no orgasm is exactly like the other, and there are some magical moments where you feel as though you couldn’t have had a better orgasm.

But have you ever noticed that it’s sometimes hard to repeat those mind-blowing orgasms? Or that achieving orgasm feels really difficult, and maybe even impossible? Totally normal, but admittedly frustrating. Luckily, there are tons of ways to improve your climaxes. The first step is learning more about your body and understanding what’s going on under the (clitoral) hood. Here’s a rundown of what you can do.

Strengthen your core—and your pelvic floor.

Alright, say it with me: pubococcygeus muscle. Too early (or late) for long anatomic names? No worries. It’s the PC muscle, better known as your pelvic floor. And, if you’re human, you need to pay it some attention. No matter what parts your packing, your pelvic floor is responsible for a lot – including the strength of your orgasms. You know those awesome, uncontrollable contractions that accompany a big O? That’s your PC muscle doing its thing.

BUT, there are a ton of common factors that can lead to a weakened PC muscle – from time to childbirth to plain old inactivity. And, your sexual enjoyment can easily be the biggest victim. The good news is that you have a lot of options to take control of the situation.

Normally, this is where we’d push you to try a Kegel exercise, talking you through contracting your PC muscle like you were stopping the flow of urine. While Kegel exercises are amazing, we’ve kind of fallen in love with a much more comprehensive solution around here. It’s called P.volve, and we’re obsessed.

P.volve is an on-demand workout provider that focuses on “functional fitness”—an approach designed to work your body from the inside out. And, as you might have guessed, this includes your pelvic floor. Not only that, but P.volves’ unique brand of exercises improves flexibility and can relieve pain as well. Are you picking up what we’re laying down here? Stronger PC muscle… increased flexibility… confidence from a killer workout… that’s all gotta improve sex!

Oh yeah, and in addition to the stronger orgasms, when you’re actively working your pelvic floor, you can easily experience a natural increase in libido and sexual enjoyment. Win. Win.

And for the vulva owners among us, you can take all that up a notch with Yarlap, a discrete device that features AutoKegel technology. This uses gentle stimulation to put your PC muscle through an automatic exercise. Combine that with your physical workouts and you’ll have Kegels of steel, and orgasms of gold. Or something like that. You get it…

Meditate or focus on the breath.

Sometimes, anxieties creep up and don’t let us focus on our bodies, especially during sex. I’ve had times where my mind drifts to what I have to do for work and even the latest news—and those are definitely not sexy thoughts.

When I feel my mind drifting from my body, I try to reel it back in by focusing on my body in different ways. First, focus on your breathing and on how you can control it. Then, focus on things you can perceive with your five senses—sight, sound, smell, taste and touch. By doing so, you’re grounding your mind and body to what you’re experiencing at the present, rather than thinking of the past or future.

You can also practice sexual meditation with your partner to feel closer, increase intimacy, and yield better orgasms. Incorporate this practice by starting off with slow foreplay, focusing on each other’s breathing and keeping eye contact—which in itself is super hot. You’ll find that getting in touch with your body allows you to experience increased sensation, and that includes your climaxes.

Ride the edge.

And while we’re on the topic of slowing down, edging is another great way to get stronger and better orgasms. To edge, you get yourself as near to orgasming as you can, but STOP right before you actually do. As you do this, energy builds up in you and, after getting close a few times, it makes for an amplified stretch across the finish line.

You can do this alone or with someone else—just let them know what you plan to do so you’re both on the same page.

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Let’s cut right to the chase: are you one for intimate, eye contact-filled, almost-no-physical-space-between-your-two-bodies sex? If that’s the case, allow me to introduce you to lotus: a sex position you may have tried before, even if you didn’t know its name.

I had Barbara Carellas of Urban Tantra on the show recently, who gave us the low-down on tantric sex and its benefits: deep partner connection, energy orgasms, full-body stimulation. And the most famous tantric position of all? The lotus. I love it so much, I devoted part of my Masterclass to it – and now, I’m gonna break it down for you.

What is the lotus position?

Lotus involves the penetrating partner sitting down, criss-cross applesauce, with the receiving partner seated in their lap – facing towards them chest-to-chest, legs straddling the torso. From here, either vaginal penetration or anal penetration can occur, through a penis, dildo, or fingers.

Why try it?

This position is tantric not necessarily due to its configuration, but because of the intimate energy, it fosters between partners. You can be slow and soulful, or vigorous and wild – all with relative hand freedom, not to mention a nice angle to nibble each other’s necks, or caress each other’s thighs.

Because it’s physically comfortable (with none of the safety precautions of, say, reverse cowgirl), this makes lotus versatile enough to match your mood. Do you feel like making love? Lotus is your friend. Do you want a quickie on a solid surface? Again – lotus! You can infuse this position with tons of romance and heat, given the super-close proximity.

What are the benefits?

Vulva owners love the lotus because it allows for generous clitoral stimulation: you can rub it on your partner’s torso, lean back and use a toy on it, or have the receiving partner press it with their fingers. There’s also a pretty sexy view happening here – so sexy, that if you’re a penis owner, a delay spray might be in order. Look no further than Promescent if you’re in the market; it helps those sensitive nerve endings in the penis chill out a bit, so orgasms can happen with more control.

Another rad benefit: it’s accessible! As in, it’s not exclusive to able bodies. Lotus can happen with one person in a wheelchair, with lots of room for the vulva or anal play.

How can I spice it up?

Not gonna lie – lotus is already pretty spicy! But many physical variations can happen here, making lotus easy to tailor to your most ideal sexual experience. You can try…

• Having the receiving partner brace their hands behind them, and lean back
• Conversely, embracing each other tight, heart-to-heart
• Turning it into a slow grind, with lots of deep penetration
• Having the receiving partner wrap their legs tight around the other person’s torso

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I don’t know if you’ve heard the news, but we’ve entered a new portal, people. And by “portal” I mean year, and by “year” I mean a unit of measurement, although after the years we’ve had, you’d be forgiven for forgetting, exactly, how we measure time.

Anyway, here’s what we can say! It’s cold. You need date ideas. And while “cozy” is the adjective du jour during these long winter nights, there’s nothing stopping you from getting your sexy on too. You just need to dress appropriately, aka layers, which will be super fun to take off later…wink wink.

So here are five sexy date ideas to inspire you this New Year, ranging from “quite adventurous” to “mixes well with pajamas.” Which one will you be lining up?

1. Make out at a drive-in movie.

It’s the 1950s! Just kidding, it’s the 2020s and this cute date has withstood the test of time. Drive-in movies are private, temperature-controlled exactly to your liking, and best of all you can kiss / cuddle / whatever you want to do, provided your parking brake is on. Just make sure the car is filled up with gas or electrically charged, and bring your own sexy snacks: who needs overpriced Good N’ Plenty when you can BYOC (bring your own chocolate)?

2. Read erotica to each other at the fireplace.

If you’re looking to practice your dirty talk without the pressure of generating it yourself, why not peruse some hot erotica? Why not read them out loud in front of a roaring fireplace? Why not find a bougie hotel with said fireplace, get all dressed up, and read them to each other there, with wine possibly in-hand? Enough with the questions – I think you know what to do.

3. Seduce your tastebuds with a cooking class.

If you, like me, think of the spaghetti scene from “Lady and the Tramp” when you read this date idea – then congratulations, we can be friends. But more to the point, this is a date concept that is both sexy and useful, because you get to take home something delicious! And what’s more, you can keep those skills next time you’re whipping up something special for each other. Oops, did you accidentally just smear some sauce across your face in the most adorable way? Guess your date will have to rub it off and gaze into your eyes, rom-com style.

4. Let the great artists inspire you (and your nudes).

If COVID left you culture-starved, get thee to an art opening and let the great masters do their magic. Chat in advance about the type of museum experience you’re craving, but do know this: just because they lived hundreds of years ago doesn’t mean the famous names of art history weren’t kinky AF. Regardless, if you’re both into art, you’re going to have a lot to talk about during and after, and as we like to say around here… communication is a lubrication.

5. Go camping + go at it.

Depending on where you live, you might look at this date idea and go – LOL, nope, too chilly. But listen! “Camping” has a lot of guises, from tents, to glamping, to rentable RV’s and campers. And weather permitting, i.e. no blizzards, camping has a lot going for it in the sexy department: you can make s’mores by the fire, cuddle in a blanket with warm beverages, and last but not least, have sex under the stars. Did you know that winter is the best time of year for stargazing? How cool would it be to locate a soulful cosmic body and then make love underneath it? Look at you, being so astrological!

The truth is, winter date night ideas abound, from sledding, to building a snowman, to wine tastings and chill movie nights – but hopefully, this list inspires you to mix it up, chase off the winter blues, and create some heat…the bodily kind.

Source: https://sexwithemily.com/5-sexy-date-ideas-for-new-year/

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In a perfect world, we would all be able to have sex whenever the mood strikes, free of inhibition, obstacle, or obstruction. We would do it in the kitchen in the middle of the day, maybe in the living room at dusk. But for many of us, privacy is a luxury that we don’t quite have in our homes. Whether it be roommates, neighbors, kids, or other family members, plenty of sexually active adults live with other people.

So what do you do when you’re horny in a full house? How can you scratch your sexual itch when you don’t have the comfort of solitude? Fear not. There is hope for ye horny folk, yet. Here are some ways you can have sex in a full house while staying secretive.

Get steamy in the shower.

It might not be the most spacious setting, but bathrooms are the pinnacle of privacy when you’re living with others. You don’t have to worry about anyone bothering you or barging in as long as the shower is running and the door is locked. If you’re single, bring a water-safe toy with you and get a little dirty before you wash yourself clean. If you’re looking to have sex with a partner, the noise of the shower will likely drown out the sound—just go in and exit at separate times so no one knows what you’ve been up to.

Plus, shower sex lends itself to certain positions that you might skip over while getting it on elsewhere. Just remember to keep soap away from open orifices and that water does not double as lube.

Be an early riser.

If you’re into morning sex, set your alarm a bit earlier than you normally would. Wipe the sleep from your eyes, roll over, and get it in first thing in the morning. If you’re up before the sun, chances are you’ll be up before anyone else in the house too—just make sure your alarm isn’t so alarming that it would wake people in other rooms. (And remember not to hit the snooze so you don’t miss out on sexy time.)

Not a morning person? You can do the reverse and stay up long past everyone else’s bedtime. Either way, you’ll be having O’s while everyone else is catching Z’s.

Have sex off the bed.

Bed frames and box springs tell no lies when it comes to sex. That unmistakable sound of two bodies bouncing together in bed seems to permeate even the thickest walls and announce your love-making to the masses. But you can avoid the dreaded “creak creak creak” by doing your business on the floor!  Throw down some pillows for comfort, blankets for warmth, and sheets to protect you from rug burn, then bang it out on the ground.

You’ll be surprised at how much harder you can go when you don’t have to worry about the sturdiness of the structure you’re rocking on. You may have to muffle your moans with the pillows and keep the spanking to a minimum, but sometimes restrictions make sex all the more fun.

Be shameless.

Depending on the age of your housemates, consider being honest and upfront about your plans to get it on. You can relieve yourself of the worry of getting caught by putting it all out there in the first place. It might involve a touch of scheduling, but you would be surprised at how understanding people can be. Maybe your roommate can take a walk in the afternoon and leave the house available for your erotic romps. Maybe telling them will unlock a new level of bonding and respect that you didn’t suspect you could achieve.

Of course, be mindful of the nature of your relationships and do your best not to make others uncomfortable. But if we all start normalizing sex, the world would be a better and more pleasurable place.

Cohabitation is complicated, especially when it comes to sex. But where there’s a will, there’s a way to home base. With some planning, creativity, and a little communication, all your wildest sex dreams can come true, even if you’re living in a full house.

Source: https://sexwithemily.com/how-to-have-sex-when-youre-in-a-full-house/

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If we’ve heard it once, we’ve heard it a zillion times:

“He’s experienced. He knows what he’s doing in bed.”

Or, “she’s not wet – she must not be into me.”

Or my personal favorite: “if you use a vibrator that much, isn’t a penis going to feel disappointing?”

Even if we don’t say these things out loud, these are the kinds of sex myths that are so pervasive, they just feel true. That’s because we’ve all internalized a lot of limiting beliefs around sex and pleasure, simply by virtue of being human. Why? Because we (culture) are still getting comfortable discussing these topics at all. Just by being here, reading this article, you’re on the forefront of a movement: one that says it’s OK to talk about these things, and to understand why pleasure is important.

So first: good job you, for being curious! And secondly, let’s do some myth-busting. Because these are some of the most common assumptions about sex that trip a lot of people up, preventing them from having all the juicy pleasure they deserve. Even those of us who know better fall into these myths sometimes (guilty!), so a little refresher never hurts.

Here and now, the top 5sex myths you need to stop believing:

1. If you’ve slept with a lot of people, you’re better at sex

Tell me if this self-talk sounds familiar to you:

“If they’ve slept with 10 people, and I’ve slept with one, that means they are 10 times better at sex than I am.”

Good news: NOPE! You don’t arrive to a place where you are “good at sex.” Sex is like cooking: it’s the ingredients that go into the mix that make it a fantastic meal, and no two people are the same. Or to mix our metaphors: it’s improv jazz, every time.

Your number of past partners (aka, your “body count”) has no relevance on the person in front of you. But here’s what will improve your sexual interactions: paying attention to your partner’s pleasure. Being attuned to their body language. Taking the time to understand what you like (which can happen solo). Communicating what you want.

Sleeping with a lot of people doesn’t make you a player or a slut: these are old, judgmental ways of thinking that are hopefully fading. (Shoutout to vulva owners: having a lot of sex also doesn’t mean your muscles permanently stretch out. That’s a tired patriarchal myth tied up with virginity.) On the flip side: sleeping with a small amount of people doesn’t make you undesirable. It means you have lived your own unique life! So take this body count belief, and kindly put it in the psychological trash.

2. You shouldn’t need lube if you’re already turned on

Here’s the reality: lube makes it easier to orgasm. We’ll circle back to that one in a moment – but first, wetness.

Here’s what affects the body’s ability to produce natural lubrication:

• Where you are in your cycle (in general, vulva owners are more wet when ovulating, less when they’re not)
• Medication: birth controls, antidepressants, even allergy meds — all have the ability to affect wetness
• Your age (hormones change as we get older, affecting our genital moisture)
• If you’ve just had a baby (hormones)
• Stress (again: hormones!)

As you can see, there are a ton of factors outside of arousal that dictate wetness. So many people take it personally when a partner isn’t wet…and assume they’re not turning them on enough. That’s why I’m here to tell you: normalize lube.

Sure, there may be an arousal issue here, warranting a deeper conversation. But if you’re both in the mood, and one person’s not wet – guess what? It’s nobody’s fault. In fact, during one study, 50% of folks reported that lube made it easier to orgasm! So grab a bottle and have fun. 

3. You can get addicted to a sex toy

…or another, related myth: your genitals will become desensitized to sex sensations, if you masturbate a lot.

You want to hear something cool? The opposite is actually true! Masturbating, whether you’re using a toy or not, activates our nerve endings on a regular basis, creating more neural pathways to pleasure. Boom shaka-laka.

Now then, can we create mental patterns around masturbation? Sure. We can get a little rote with our routine, simply because we know what works, and naturally, we want to do that thing over and over again. But we can fix that, by adding in a little variety: using a toy during penetration, edging, experimenting with your hands or a different toy.  (Might we suggest the Womanizer from We-Vibe? That pleasure air technology delivers OMG sensations like you’ve never experienced.)

In short: don’t worry about using a sex toy. You’re training your body for pleasure—you’re not getting addicted. 

4. Sex isn’t good if you don’t have an orgasm

Listen—orgasms are wonderful. Love ‘em! The hype is warranted. And: they are not the single metric of successful sex.

What’s important to remember here is that pleasure and orgasm are not the same thing. Pleasure is the journey: the connection, the touch, the intimacy, and the joy of simply exploring one another. But sometimes, we’re so focused on having (or “giving”) an orgasm, that we miss out on the richer pleasure piece. To quote Alanis Morissette…isn’t it ironic?

This belief is an outgrowth of the notion that “sex” is strictly PIV (penis in vagina). It’s…not. A lot of folks disassociate during sex as a result of this thinking, because we’ve been taught that everybody is supposed to orgasm during penetration. And then, we feel like failures if that doesn’t happen.

So here’s my advice: take orgasm off the table. Make presence the new goal. I think you’re going to have a lot more fun that way, and if an orgasm happens, awesome! If not, you’ll walk away still having released a ton of pleasure chemicals in your mind and body, because you weren’t caught up in the stress of HAVING to climax. 

5. Anal is only for gay men

Or, that it’s painful, or that you’re dirty, or that it’s bad for you.

Before we get into this one, know this: penis owners can experience prostate stimulation during anal, and it feels amazing. Also? Everyone, vulva owners included, can have booty orgasms. Here’s a comprehensive podcast episode where you can learn all about butt stuff with the expert herself: Alicia Sinclair, founder of B-vibe, THE resource for educational, sexy, and cute anal toys.

Returning back to the original myth though, we can quickly debunk it with simple science:

We all have an anus, we all have nerve endings inside our anus, and when stimulated properly, they feel wonderful. To experience those sensations, it’s helpful to prepare your sphincter muscles, because just like you wouldn’t pop into the splits without stretching your hamstrings — same goes for anal. It can be painful, if we’re not careful, but it doesn’t have to be. It’s also not dirty: here’s Dr. Evan Goldstein, explaining exactly how your colon stores waste, and how it doesn’t interfere with anal sex.

And finally…as we’ve hopefully established by now, anal isn’t just for gay men. Everyone’s got a booty. And everyone can utilize it for pleasure, if they so choose.

So there you have it: the top sex myths, debunked. Don’t you feel better, knowing that none of these things are true? They’ve just been repeated a lot! But armed with information, you know what to do: go forth, get your head in the game (wink wink), and have fun being liberated from stigma.

Source: https://sexwithemily.com/the-top-sex-myths-you-need-to-stop-believing/

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Nothing in life lasts forever, and sometimes that includes mind-blowing, life-changing sex. We’re not saying that it’s impossible to rekindle the flame after the initial spark has gone out (please don’t mind the excessive fire metaphors). But with busy work schedules, families, and general life chaos, it can be hard to keep things as sexy as they were at the beginning of your relationship. As NRE (or new relationship energy) fades, so can the sex—so it’s important to find ways to prioritize your pleasure as a couple and spice it up.

Our number one tip when it comes to bringing back some of the OG heat is variety. In other words, adding something new to your sexual routine breaks up the monotony of the same ol’ thing day in and day out. Here are some sex tips for getting started.

1) Bring in some reinforcement (toys).

If you haven’t introduced sex toys into your bedroom, consider this a sign. There are so many myths associated with sex toys…they can de-sensitize your vulva or they’re purely for solo play. Nope and nope. If sex is ice cream, then toys are like sprinkles—they aren’t necessary for sex, but they do make things a little more fun.

We’re obsessed with the toys from Dame wellness. The Eva from Dame is a wearable, hands-free vibe that’s designed for couple’s play. Simply tuck its flexible wings underneath you or your partner’s labia to add clitoral stimulation to penetrative sex. We’re also big fans of Dame’s Fin, a finger vibe that adds all sorts of delicious buzzy sensations to sexy time. Most vulva-owners need some kind of clitoral stimulation to orgasm, and adding a toy to do just that is a great way to make sex more pleasurable and possibly exciting.

2) Find some shared kinks.

If you and your partner have been together for a while, you might be stuck in the same ol’ “sex routine.” And while it’s totally fine to have go-to positions, bringing something different into the bedroom is one of the best ways to revive your sex life. Meet our Yes, No, Maybe Guide. By filling out a little sexual questionnaire together, you can consider new kinks or reaffirm the things you want to try. Most people find that completing the Yes, No, Maybe Guide gives them a long list of exciting new sexual activities. Give it a try and fill up your calendar with all sorts of exciting sexual adventures, whether that’s roleplay, bathing together, or experimenting in BDSM.

3) Tighten up your pelvic floor.

Your pelvic floor muscle is crucial for solid sexual health, so strengthening it can often lead to a more satisfying sex life. Stronger pelvic floor=stronger orgasms, baby! We recommend practicing your kegels regularly and you can opt for a device that even does your exercise for you. The Yarlap is an award-winning device that uses auto-kegel technology to help work out your pelvic muscles. It’s proven to help with incontinence, and whatever your age, leads to better, more intense orgasms. If you’re bad at remembering to work out (you’re not alone), the Yarlap helps because it literally does your kegels for you. Have fun—the rewards are worth it. Bonus: Sex With Emily readers get $30 off with the code EMILY.

4) Incorporate CBD.

If your sex life feels “meh” because you’re struggling with stress, getting turned on, or experiencing pain during sex, CBD might be a great option to revive your sex life. Whereas other forms of cannabis give you a body and a mental high, CBD works to help ease anxiety and give your body a more calm, “ahhh” feeling. When used as a topical on your genitals, it can help stimulate blood flow, which is a key component in fueling the physical sensations of desire.

We’re obsessed with Foria, which offers an almost magical range of products featuring CBD and made with clean ingredients. Their intimacy line has a stellar lineup of  Arousal Oil, Intimacy Suppositories, Sex Oil, and Bath Salts. You can even buy in bundles to combine products for a relaxing (but totally erotic) sexual experience. Spa night=sex night. Bonus Sex With Emily readers get 20% off with the code EMILY.

Right now, 10% of the proceeds will go to the Audre Lorde Project, an LBTQIA+ BIPOC community in NYC.

5) Have sex outside.

There’s something about sex outside that can unlock a person’s primal side. If you can snag privacy, try having sex while on a hike, on a camping trip, or on a balcony. You can also opt for your backyard or even the backyard of your next Airbnb. Regardless of the location, having sex somewhere new, especially when it’s outside, feels spontaneous, playful, and 100% hot. (Sounds like a valid reason to book a getaway if you ask us.)

6) Increase your stamina.

It’s common for sex, libido, and stamina to all fluctuate with time and age. Specifically, some penis owners might experience premature ejaculation, or not “lasting as long” as they’d like. And while this can often feel like a huge roadblock in your sexual relationship, there are lots of ways to increase your stamina and go for as long as you and your penis desire. Promescent’s “delay spray” is one of those go-to products for a lot of men. It’s a great way to experience all the sensations of sex without finishing before you’re ready.

7) Amp up the dirty talk.

Never underestimate the power of your words—especially when it comes to sex. Lots of people love when their partners get vocal about their pleasure but some may refrain from speaking up because they aren’t sure what to say. The more you practice dirty talk, the easier it becomes. Start by describing how good something feels or letting your partner know how much you love it when ________________ (fill in the blank with sexy act here). Getting into the habit of talking dirty is one of the easiest ways to increase the heat and revive sex life because it’s something you can literally start doing tonight. Try it out! Odds are, your partner will love it.

8) Plan a staycation.

You don’t need to fly to Maui for the best sex of your life—you can do it all in your hometown. Finding a great hotel or Airbnb just to simply get away for a night or two (without really getting away) is such a simple way to prioritize your pleasure and connect on a deeper level with your partner. So often we get stuck in the same work, eat, sleep routine that it takes some effort to break the mold and do something different. Enter a staycation. Pick a spot you two have been meaning to try and have sex in a brand new location.

9) Experiment with roleplay.

You can also add variety to and revive your sex life by pretending to be someone else. Roleplay is hot AF because it gives us the opportunity to see our partner in a new way, experiment with power dynamics, and embody a new energy. Classic scenarios include teacher/student, masseuse/client, CEO/secretary, and bartender/customer, but we won’t limit you. Use your imagination and slip into a sexy alter-ego.

10) Edge your way to stronger orgasms.

For this, it’s all about the antici…pation! Edging can help prolong your sexual experience, as well as make your orgasms stronger to revive your sex life and the spark in your relationship. In order to edge, think of sexual stimulation between a 1–10; 1 being when you’re not aroused, and 10 when you get to the bang of an orgasm. Focus on how close you get to that 10, but don’t reach it entirely. Try to get back to a 3 or 4 and regain control. Once you’ve done this a few times, reaching an orgasm feels way more intense. For more tips on how to edge, check out our Edging Guide—located here.

11) Send a dirty text.

There’s nothing better than seeing a dirty text in public and blushing–the feeling of being naughty is a core erotic fantasy within many of our sexual fantasies. By introducing the idea of sex in the middle of the day, you and your partner will have sex and arousal at the top of your mind and be more open to it later. It can be as innocent as texting your partner that you’re looking forward to being together later…. And it can be as naughty as sending a “sneak peek” in your birthday suit or describing (in detail) what you want to do to them.

12) Watch porn together.

Have you ever wondered what type of porn your partner watches? We often think of watching porn as a solo activity, but having your partner join can be an incredibly erotic experience to revive your sex life. Knowing what visually arouses your partner can be beneficial to know what makes your partner tick. You don’t have to be into the same things, and it might even be awkward at first. But once you start to explore (Bellesa Plus has some incredible options) you might find yourselves being turned on by the experience and learning new ways to arouse one another.

Source: https://sexwithemily.com/12-tips-to-revive-a-stale-sex-life/

Written by LoveAndSexAnswers.com

Women are complicated creatures!  There is no one foreplay move that works on all women nor do all women like the same things!  What worked for your last girl might not work with your current girl – and that can be super frustrating if all you want to do is please her. (Oh, and that should be your main goal).

Although women are all different, here are some foreplay tips at work for most women most of the time…

Foreplay Tip #1 – Worship Her

You can do this anytime, all the time.  Make her feel like the most important sexiest women in the world!  Show her that you have never been with a more perfect woman.  Praise her body, in every way.  From her eyes to her boobs. You need to make her feel like a million dollars and let he know you feel like the luckiest man in the world to be able to touch her and kiss her.

Foreplay Tip #2 – Tease Her

Do not go straight for the honey!  Spend some time opening the jar.  IN other words, don’t go from kissing to sex right away, take your time and get her turned on.

Women need a lot more foreplay and longer foreplay then guys do so remember that even if you are ready to go she might need more kissing, more touching more more more! But the more you do the better it will feel to her because the longer you wait to have sex the more turned on she will be!  So tease her!

Even if she starts to beg, build her anticipation and really get her ready for you.

Foreplay Tip #3 – Go Down On Her

You know how much you love a good old bj? Well, she too will love a little tongue action.  Did you know the clitoris only purpose is for pleasure?  It has no other use except to make women feel amazing.  So spend some time and lick her, suck her, flick her etc.

If you don’t know what she likes, then have her show you on your palm.  Or ask her!  Some women push men away from giving them oral but that is normally because she hasn’t had someone really show her a good time down there, you could be the guy to do it!!

Foreplay Tip #4 – Engage ALL Her Senses

Don’t just touch her, talk to her too.  I do not just mean dirty talk, although that is a plus!  But be romantic with your words, you don’t need to spout off poetry, just say some amazing things about her!  And how amazing she is!  Along the same lines as that, tell her how turned on she is making you and how you want so badly to be inside her.

Foreplay Tip #5 – Be Enthusiastic And Passionate About Her

Don’t just rub up against her with a hard on.

Treat your woman like she is the most amazing women ever and you are the luckiest man to be having sex with her.  Make her feel like a million and she will give it all back to you tenfold.

Foreplay Tip #6 – Use Toys

So many men have hang ups about using toys. It doesn’t mean you don’t know what you’re doing or that she doesn’t like doing that stuff with you. All it means is that they are hot and it’s a great foreplay technique. Just having the balls to bring them in to the bedroom makes you an automatic stud. And it’s not a bad thing, it’s a good thing. That thing has batteries so it can go forever, so why not let it do all the heavy lifting and then slide on in and reap all the rewards!

Chicks dig that 50 shades of Grey stuff. Bringing toys into the bedroom has got to be my #1 suggestion for hottest female foreplay tip on the planet. There are so many different kinds of toys, so many different applications, as well as the ability to use several at the same time, either for the sake of doing it or to fulfill or explore a specific fantasy, that to avoid using them is to do so at your own risk.

Foreplay Tip #7 – Be Present

This is another super hot foreplay technique. Tantra is a good way to explore this with your partner as well as practice on your own. But in terms of hot foreplay tricks for women, it doesn’t get much hotter.

Make her feel like she is the only woman on Earth. That you have to have her or you will die. Ache or her. Make sure she knows this. Be willing to fight for her and be there. When you listen, really listen. When she asks you to do something, do it. And do it well. Basically, the hottest foreplay tip for a woman is to be the kind of lover that makes all her friends hate her. Why do they hate her, because she has you, and they don’t. That is the hottest foreplay tip for women. Ever.

Source: https://loveandsexanswers.com/the-7-best-foreplay-moves-to-really-turn-her-on/

Written by SwingersHelp.com

Ok, you’ve either found a swinger couple online, at a meet & greet event, at a house party, or in a lifestyle club and now you want to play with them…what now? Let’s go through the common stages of swinging with another couple to get the most out of what’s bound to be an erotic and sexually freeing experience!

The Setting

You’ve invited a couple to swing so what’s the next step?  Now you need to think about the setting for your playful rendezvous. This may be a swinger club, or your own cozy abode. Some couples prefer to rent a hotel room for the night to give the whole experience its own space. A hotel room can keep it separate from your daily lives – making it feel more private and more deliciously taboo.

If you’re hosting another couple whom you’ve found online at your home, this next point should go without saying: Clean up. The last thing you want to see when rolling up to a night of sexy play is a stack of dirty dishes or stinky laundry on the floor. Set the mood by providing a clean space, and set the mood further with some candles, music or dimmed lighting.

If you plan on meeting them at a swinger party or club it’s important to RSVP to ensure there will be enough space for everyone. Please make sure you’re familiar with the rules of any party or club you’re planning to attend. Sometimes you need to reserve a playroom in advance so if you know you’ll like your privacy at some point in the evening, reserve your play space as soon as possible.

If you’ve booked a hotel room, don’t assume that the other couple will pitch in for it, although that is the polite thing to do and the norm. If you’re not the couple who’s organizing the room, the correct etiquette is to offer to split the cost. If they insist, pick up the tab for dinner or the sexy cocktails. A small gift like some nice chocolates or a bottle of wine goes a long way.

Calm Before the Storm

A key piece of advice before you enter any swinging situation: Fully discuss all of the potential scenarios with your own partner so that you’re on the same page. You want to establish what you both want before the heat gets turned up and the excitement threatens to cloud your judgement.

Once you’re all together, the excitement and energy start to build… the fun is about to begin. Let’s say you’ve found a compatible couple in a lifestyle club and you and your partner are ready to hit the play button. Before you do, it’s important to cover a few basic points of communication.

You’ve probably had at least part of this discussion with the other couple prior to entering this room, but it’s good to double check the details. Will this be a full or soft swap? Are any sex acts like anal or oral not allowed? What protection is being used? And whatever other topics are important to you and your partners. The key here is to be as open as possible.

Decide whether both couples will all play in one room or split off to separate ones. This is down to preference. Some couples find it hot to keep everyone together, getting the greatest kick from sharing the whole experience with each other. Those into exhibitionism may decide to do it among a larger group of swingers at a party, and for others, it’s more about making an individual sexual connection behind closed doors and reconvening with their partner later.  Some people find it difficult to concentrate on their current sexual partner when there’s lots of other action happening close by.  If you are doing separate rooms, figure out how you will meet up afterwards to ensure you don’t awkwardly interrupt your partner in case they need extra time to finish.

Lastly, it’s important to remember in the “pregame” phase of the encounter, that often there is booze present at these events and having a drink or two is one way to ease anxiety and loosen some of those inhibitions. However, heavy consumption of alcohol and swinging don’t pair well. People who are heavily intoxicated are not able to give consent. Being drunk can lead to breaking rules you have established with your partner and ruin the whole experience. Not to mention the ever-present risk for men to underperform after they have had too much to drink.

During the Act

Firstly, it goes without saying that respect is paramount to a positive swinging experience. Apart from the sex, there are many things that should be said and done, and many things that should not.

Do… Ask whether they’re comfortable with you finishing inside of them. Even if you’re wearing a condom, finishing someone without their consent could break one of their rules, or be unwanted. Similarly, it may be relevant to disclose if you’re a female who squirts. This can be alarming or arousing to men so a heads-up goes a long way. Especially if you’re on their couch!

Do… Be considerate with your noises. If you’re swinging in the same room with other people being too loud can become a distraction.  It’s OK to enjoy yourself but remember it is a shared space. Also be careful not to accidentally turn this into a competition. Swinging is about fun and exploration, not competition.

Do Not… Leave a mark. Don’t scratch, bite or bruise your partner. It’s not polite to damage other people’s things, much less their beloved spouses.

Do Not… Ask if you are better skilled or endowed than their partner. Major mood killer.

Do Not… Say anything negative about their spouse, or yours. Keep it positive, putting others down does not increase the pleasure and can snuff out any sexual flame.

Do Not… Change rules. Don’t change your rules in the heat of the moment, and do not pressure the other couple to change their rules.  When the passion is running high, people are not always making the best choices, and we want to avoid drama.  Safer to stay within the lines & consider changing the rules for the next time you play together.

After Swinging

If you are in the same room, it is common to lounge around and chat or maybe even have a second or third round of fun.  Regardless of how you decide to finish your swinging fun, when all is said and done, remember the respect should still be there. Check if your swinging partner had a good time.  Now is a good time to compliment everyone including your own partner to provide some pleasant reassurance. Everyone likes to be reminded of how awesome they are and how much you enjoy them. Be careful not to linger with the other couple too much, as it can come off as a little weird or clingy.  This is just swinging and you aren’t looking to marry them so act accordingly.  Now is not the time to declare your never-ending love for your new sex partner.  Be polite, friendly but don’t smother them.

After you head home and are rested up again, it is a good idea to privately reconnect with your spouse – physically and emotionally.  Many couples wait till the next morning to do this.  Physically reconnecting with a special cuddle session or some more sexy time can help re-establish your special intimate bond.  It can also be very helpful to talk about what you did and communicate the good and bad so you can both be better teammates for each other.

The next day is a good time to send a friendly text or email to your swinging friends.  If you want to repeat the experience, now is the time to ask if they might be interested in that.  Don’t be upset if they are busy.  Remember swingers are busy juggling work, family, and vanilla friends.  Plus, many swingers are in the lifestyle because they prefer a wide variety of partners so those people won’t very eager to repeat.  If they ask to repeat, and you don’t want to repeat be honest.  It can be hard rejecting swingers but it is better to be politely honest than it is to mislead them and potentially cause bigger problems.

Source: https://swingershelp.com/swing-with-another-couple/