Swinger Wives Feel Empowered As Women Living A Swinger Lifestyle

Mike Hatcher

trade-youSwinging lifestyle is coming into full-swing …

Recently, the best friend of Prince William’s girlfriend announced the opening of a swingers club in Scotland, since she is already leading one in London, Killing Kittens. According to Scotland on Sunday, no man can enter the club, he can be brought only by a woman (or more).

Moreover, women are those who make the rules in such clubs. They represent 80% of customers. The clientele is very selective, aged between 18 and 45 years. Killing Kittens in London, claims to reject 1 of 3 applications this last year has 6,000 members, according to The Sun.

Club attire is mandatory, jeans not being worn in such places. Inside drugs are prohibited but clients can delight themselves with champagne. Condoms are strategically placed in all the rooms and the atmosphere lures the most comfortable positions and outfits.

After the talk and look, choosing potential partners, lovers retire in rooms where they “play”, cameras where mobile phones are completely banned.

For those who like this lifestyle think it is a healthier alternative than fixed Internet dating. And the customer does not lack finding these kind of clubs.

But what is swinging?

Swinging is sex in the group and/or exchange partner(s) and/or petting. All this is combined with a touch of exhibitionism, a gram of voyeurism and something crazy.

Swinging sites, this phenomenon is seen as an alternative lifestyle that involves participation in recreational activities, especially sex (or just sex). Common sense charge but this type of behavior, dismissing it as abnormal. Value judgments belong to us, though.

Swinging origins

Swinging appeared in the ancient times in Alaska, northern Canada and a few tribes in Africa, in which married couples had no reluctance to share their partners. The beginnings of the modern swing is found in the middle of the last century.

Swinging modern practice has its origins in an elite group of pilots on fighter planes of the American Air Force during the Second World War and the Korean War.

The high rate of mortality led to the acceptance of the relationship between wives of pilots and other pilots. Prima media story about this phenomenon occurs after the Korean War in 1957, where the phenomenon is called “wife-swapping” (changing wives).

Although reported as a negative, the audience was receptive to the idea and so, in 1960 there were over 20 magazines in the United States that had sections for swinging.

Sex without borders

Swingers have become a real community organization (such as birth and ISU) and branches spread all over the world. If you’re in a foreign country and want to make contact with other swingers, handy guides localization of clubs.

For a stay unforgettable exotic can call the agency that offers a complete package for fun. Tenders are countless special accommodation offer lifestyle plus transport companies even aviation.

Types of swinging:

  • Soft swinging: They exchange partners, but couples remain in the same room. Not acceptable penetration. It is rather touching, kissing and even oral sex.
  • Closed swinging: They exchange partners, but the newly formed couples have sex in different rooms.
  • Open swinging: They change partners and have sex in the same room. Most often in group sex, resulting orgy.

Classification of swinger parties:

  • Swinging between two couples/small group
  • Parties “off-premise” – these swinger parties know will have sex elsewhere
  • Parties “on-premise” – to these parties sex is expected to take place between participants

Swinging is an alternative to a monogamous relationship, it is a way to add salt and pepper to a relationship. However, sometimes the experience is a little too spicy. We all have fantasies but can make the difference between what we want to implement and what we would like to keep to ourselves.

3 Surprising Reasons Why Swingers Are Happier and Healthier Than Most People

Mike Hatcher

Sex isn’t the only benefit.

There are many couples nowadays who are opting to take part in the “swinglifestyle” — where they openly have sex with other partners — mostly because the lifestyle offers them something that has been lacking in their sex lives and breaks up the monotony.

I’m betting if you’re reading this, you’re still debating whether to give swinging a shot. It sounds intimidating. There’s an unfair stigma that surrounds swingers, but, the reality of the lifestyle is very different.

Before you make your final decision, you should discuss with your partner and consider these benefits of swinging:

 

1. Swingers divorce less often.

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After couples decide to join a “swinglifestyle,” they seem to have a much stronger relationship. And I think we all agree that divorce isn’t a good thing.

Don’t believe me? There’s actual statistical evidence that suggests that couples that swing together have lower divorce rates than monogamous couples.

 

2. Sexual fantasies are fulfilled, not repressed.

Interested in trying out a new kink? Always wanted to try a threesome? Well, unless you’re open to swinging, that’s probably just not going to happen.

There are also other really fun social activities, such as attending swingers clubs and parties, that’ll you’ll be able to experience once you become a swinger, which is great because it can help normalize your kinky desires.

Chances are, there are tons of people out there who have the same sexual fantasies as you and your partner, so just meeting those people and socializing with them can encourage you both to take the leap and try something sexually you’ve always wanted to try.

 

3. Swingers communicate more with their partners.

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Swingers are open-minded people. As you meet more and more people like you, you’ll end up discussing different issues in your life that will probably help you develop a deeper relationship with your partner.

Because couples who swing are more open to sharing their feelings with each other, they’re better able to solve relationship issues. And better communication almost always equals a better, healthier, and more fulfulling sex life.

Sex worker reveals the dirty details of working at a love ranch

By Jennifer Newton, The SunSex worker reveals the dirty details of working at a love ranch

Morrigan Sheri’s Ranch

A prostitute at one of the biggest legally operated love ranches in Nevada has lifted the lid on what it’s really like to work there.

Morrigan, 28, has been a sex worker at Sheri’s Ranch for more than a year and started her job while studying at law school.

Nevada is the only state in the US where prostitution is legal, although brothels must operate under strict regulations.

This means customers flock to ranches, such as Sheri’s, knowing they can indulge in their fantasies without breaking the law.

Sheri’s styles itself as a resort with luxury rooms and leisure facilities and also boasts a popular sports bar.

But far from the ranch being packed with older, single men, Morrigan, who once had 35 customers in a single week, says their clients aren’t always what you would expect and sometimes they even include couples.

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Morrigan, 28, a mom of one, told the Sun Online: “My first-ever customers were a married couple from Canada, who really wanted to try a threesome. They were worried about finding another girl, so they came to Sheri’s so they could do that.”

“It’s not unusual to get women coming here too with their husbands to spice up their relationships.”

“I have also had customers who want to lose their virginity, while some just come for the girlfriend experience and we just sit with them and talk and watch movies.”

“I’d say the most popular service is the half and half, where they get oral sex as well as full sex as well as the girlfriend experience.”

Morrigan, originally from Iowa, landed her job after applying online and then impressing the madam, Dena.

Workers go to Sheri’s Ranch for a minimum of one week or a maximum of three weeks and usually work 12-hour shifts per day, but can be on call 24/7 in case a customer requests them.

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When they show up for work at the start of their stint, they have to undergo a strict health check and also have blood taken to be tested.

There are usually 25 girls working at one time and the ranch has 25 private rooms for them to take clients to.

Once there, there are several ways men can meet girls. They can look at the website before their visit and make an appointment with a girl they would like to see.

Another way is by going to the ranch and having a drink in the sports bar, where the workers look for potential business.

Morrigan explained: “In the bar, we are only allowed to talk to the men for 10 minutes.”

“After that they either come with us to negotiate a price or we have to leave him be. If another girl is talking to a man, we aren’t allowed to make eye contact, we have to leave them alone.”

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Alternatively, if a customer is unsure of which girl to pick, he can ask the ranch hostess to get a lineup of girls together.

This sees them line up one by one and introduce themselves to him before he decides whom he would like to negotiate with.

But Morrigan insists there’s never any jealousy when girls don’t get picked.

She said: “We all know that it’s business and that different men are looking for different things. All of the girls I work with are very, very sweet and we all look out for each other.”

But every girl at the ranch has her limits and there are certain things they will individually refuse to do.

For Morrigan, “I don’t do kissing. I don’t want to exchange saliva.”

Vagina highlighter is another way of pressuring women to beautify every part of their bodies

Highlighter is an essential ingredient when contouring your face. But, one company is selling highlighter for your vagina. Because apparently our genitals in their natural state aren’t attractive enough.

According to the brand’s mission statement, the company specialises in products for “the V” — a nebulous term used throughout the website to describe women’s genitals. In fact, the words “vulva” and “vagina” are nowhere to be found on this website specialising in products aimed at these parts of the female anatomy.

“We wax it, sugar it, shave it, pierce it, tattoo it, dye it, monogram it – and sometimes even sunbathe it and after all that we expect it to remain beautiful?” reads the statement on the brand’s website.

“The delicate skin on our face and décolleté receives our attention day and night after far less strenuous treatment, but when it comes to our V— forget it,” the statement continues.

The “special highlighting cream” claims to add a “luminous iridescent colour” to the pubic area. The product description also notes that the highlighter has “skincare benefits,” and promises to renew and improve the skin and make it appear “more youthful and fresh”.

The website states that for “instant radiance” users should “lightly dry the V” and apply a small drop of the highlighter. The product description, rather unhelpfully, doesn’t note any anatomical directions for application so it’s unclear whether your “V” means your vulva, pubic area or your bikini line.

In a promotional video for the product, a woman says the “extra fun product” can be used “everyday” or as a little “extra” when you go on a date or on a night out. “It makes your skin more radiant and it makes your skin look perfect,” she adds.

When asked about the product, Dr Vanessa Mackay — a spokesperson for the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists — said that “it’s a good idea to avoid using cosmetics on the vulva” as they can “affect the healthy balance of bacteria and pH levels in the vagina and cause irritation”.

But, the product’s safety isn’t the only issue. In the past few months alone, we’ve seen several alarming and dangerous trends focused on vaginas. Things like glitter bombs for vaginas, designed to make your vaginal secretions sparkly when you’re having sex. Um, what? Women have also recently been warned against inserting wasps nests into their vaginas to “tighten the muscles”. Again, what?

Many women have taken to Twitter to express their frustration about the launch of this product.

The price of so-called perfection isn’t cheap. A tube of this highlighter will cost you 349 DKK (£42, $54).

This is one product our makeup kits can do without. The Perfect V did not respond to Mashable’s request for comment.

7 Sexy Stories About People Trying Swinging For The First Time

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Debunking the myths without omitting the mystery.

Trends come and go, and that includes sex trends.

We’ve seen lots of taboo sex subjects become an erotic soft spot — like BDSM thanks to mainstream movies like 50 Shades of Grey and tunes like Rihanna’s S&M.”

At the moment it seems that everyone is interested swinging — and their curiosity seems to be piqued when it comes to the kinky spouse swapping activity.

Perhaps there has always interest in this type of kink, but people are seemingly more apt to open up about the type of kinky shit they’re into as we become more a progressive society as far as sexuality.

Whatever the case may be, kinky people everywhere are rejoicing for sure.

But for those who may be curious about exploring, the fear of the unknown could be standing in your way. That doesn’t mean you have to forego the kink. It just means you might want to ease into it instead of jumping in head first.

One way to do that is to dabble in the swinger lifestyle by partaking in some top-notch erotic literature.

As you may know by now we’re big fans of these kink-filled free erotic stories that sites such as Literotica have to offer. Yes, the internet is filled with them, but we only want the very best for you. That’s what we’ve scoured the archives looking for these detailed,mood-setting kinky stories.

Here are 7 jaw-dropping (and maybe even panty dropping) free erotic stories about the swinging adventures of others couples — you know — so you don’t have to go out and actually try it quite yet. 

1. “A Hot New Wife” Erotic Story

“Then, fuck him, fuck him good!” I growled as I felt my cock jerk and I began coming in my shorts like some teenager in a backseat of a car!

This was the first time, the first time we had a ‘name’ to go with our fantasies, a real person, a person that the next day would take her to lunch if she said yes, a person who would take her back to his hotel if she said yes, a person who would FUCK her if she said yes!

“Everything was different.

What happened next, however, shocked me the most. Usually, after even a fantasy game, she would say something about it staying fantasy but quietly she said to me.

‘Would you help decide what to wear tomorrow?'”

 

2. “Swing Club Virgins” Erotic Story

“I admit, we mostly invited single men to join us. I loved being involved in the swinging lifestyle but felt no attraction to other women so I was pretty nervous about taking the plunge. I also wasn’t so sure about seeing my husband deriving such pleasure from another woman. All I knew was that involving another woman in any way would drive him wild with ecstasy and I needed to give him that experience.

We had talked about going to swing clubs, but I wasn’t sure I would feel comfortable. I liked the privacy of our home. I eventually felt I could enjoy it, but told him I could never go to an on premise club.

So now I am looking at myself in the mirror and thinking that in about an hour I will be walking through the door of an on premise club and looking for me and my husband to have sex with a woman. Holy crap! Would I be able to do this?”

3. “Party Extreme Ch. 01” Erotic Story

“About half an hour later Maxine came over to us with a tall dark haired, ruggedly handsome man she introduced as Malcolm. Malcolm looked like he belonged in Hollywood adventure movies. Actually, he was awesome. He was probably in his late forties and had that air of worldliness about him. I couldn’t take my eyes off him. I straightened up a bit, put on a cheerful face, and thrust my boobs out a little. Maxine explained the remaining guests were staying for the fun part of the evening. They were swingers!

I felt as if my stomach had fallen to the floor. I was horrified and wondered what we were being dragged into. She went on to explain that we had been chosen to stay on. There had been a number of couples asked the party to be vetted by the members of her swingers club, but we were the only couple deemed suitable. I don’t know what their criteria were, but I couldn’t help feeling a little flattered, but scared. That feeling quickly gave way to fury, as I knew John must be in on this. He had set me up.

There was no way I was going to swing. I enjoyed sex. In fact, I loved it, but at that point, I loved it strictly within my marriage. I turned on John, but the look of horror on his face suggested he didn’t know what was going on either.”

4. Floridian Swing Sex Story

“Darren was going to screw my wife, and I agreed to it without even knowing it.

Sherry hugged me and said Tara was in good hands. She said Darren liked to relax and romance his ladies with satin sheets and scented candles, and she knew Tara would like that. I guessed that was something the ladies talked about on their shopping excursions. She also said Darren would do his best to ensure Tara enjoyed her first experience.

The feeling of jealousy washed over me, especially now knowing Darren planned to romance Tara in a way I never have. However, I also felt comforted knowing that my wife was going to be treated well. I could imagine them lying on the bed across from one another, slowly getting acquainted.

Touching. Whispering. Kissing.”

 

5. “Conspiracy to Wife Swap” Erotic Story

Saturday night arrived and there was plenty of sexual tension in the air. Dinner went as Pattie had planned. Adam pulled Jason aside before dinner.

“You know what Pattie has planned right and you’re alright with it?” Adam asked.

“Yeah I am, are you?” Jason said. Adam answered with a fist bump.

Jason fixed Annie’s first drink strong but not enough to make her notice. She downed it quickly showing her nerves. By dinner, she was on her second margarita. Dinner was quick with Annie starting to relax.

6.  “First Time For Everything” Erotic Story

“I knew my wife was looking at other men. In fact, I had encouraged her to meet someone. I wasn’t sure about what I was getting myself into, but I was about to find out. Not long after Laura and I discussed this, she met someone at a party. She later confessed to me her attraction to the stranger. As far as I knew they had only talked at the party. At least that is what I believed until recently.

I had taken an afternoon off and was washing dishes in the kitchen while Laura was in the dining room having coffee with two friends. They were talking about the party and perhaps they didn’t know I could overhear them.

‘His eyes were gorgeous,’ I heard my wife say. ‘That’s a man that would make any women spread her legs,’ she added.

‘Well, he seemed to like you too.’ Her friend put in. “You guys talked all night. I saw you give him your number. Has he called you yet?’

‘Yes,’ Laura said. “We’ve talked a few times on the phone and we’re going on our first date this weekend.’

I was surprised. I stood still. I couldn’t believe what I heard. It had always been a fantasy of ours but she had never gone this far. The thing was, the more I thought about it, the more I liked the idea. And, we had even talked about trying the same thing with me.”

7. “A Soldier’s Tale” Erotic Story

“I glanced over at Brad and Cindy and they were doing a bit of fondling and kissing themselves when Kelly let out an almost inaudible moan and Cindy looked over at me. Her eyes were smoldering and as we locked eyes, she saw what Kelly was doing to me and reached down to massage Brads cock through his pants. After a couple of minutes of this, the movie ended and I got up to get some ice water. As I was coming back into the living room, Cindy came around the corner and ran into me, spilling the water a little bit.

She smiled and said “Sorry”, gave me a hug and with a devilish grin grabbed my cock through my sweats for a second and then headed to the kitchen.”

5 Best Dating Sites For Swingers Looking For Swinging Partners

5 Dating Sites to Check Out If You Are Seeking Swinger PartnersPHOTO: WEHEARTIT

Enjoy alternative fun!

Having fun can take many forms and if you are interested in experimenting in swinging or you are a regular swinger, there are many dating sites around offering you the opportunity to hook up with others interested in the same thing.

But although there are a lot of such sites around, some make claims they simply can’t back up.

But don’t worry. We’ve come up with our top 5 dating sites that do cater for swingers which will save you the time researching online yourself and save you wasted membership fees on dating sites that don’t really have many other members into swinging.

Read on to discover our top dating sites for swingers:

#5: Bicupid.com

Bicupid is great for finding friends and having no strings fun. During the registration process, you can choose whether you are interested in meeting men, women or couples.

Creating an account is really easy and bicuspid also offers free members the ability to use a lot of the features. As a free member though, you can’t initiate a chat with someone, you can only respond to messages that you are sent.

If you take out a premium membership there are a lot more facilities on offer. You can watch videos that users have posted as well as take an active part in the online community. The site boasts a detailed forum, a blog area, and even an online news magazine.

Chatting with people is quite easy. Bicupid offers you the choice of sending an email to another member or using instant messenger online chat.

Browsing is very easy and the profiles are quite in-depth which means you can see right away what a member is into sexually. There are many profiles of members who are seeking swinging partners so Bicupid is definitely a dating site worth taking a look at.

#4: Kasidie.com

Kasidie has a really sophisticated feel about it when browsing around. It feels like you are in a high end, erotic secret club with other open-minded members. The profiles are all very sexy, sometimes explicit, and members are not shy about saying what they are looking for.

Members are interested in swingers, swinger parties, exhibitionists, couples dating, soft swap, full swap, girl on girl, voyeurs, bisexuality, dirty dancing, group sex, and so much more.

Another great thing about Kasidie is the online community. There is an ‘events’ section in which in you can see what users are traveling and where and then using this information, members can decide to hook up for a get-together. Members are also able to chat in rooms and generally just hang out with other people into swinging.

Full membership is needed to really take advantage of what Kasidiehas to offer. Free membership is very restrictive and it’s difficult to interact with others when you only have a free membership.

This dating site is open and fun. It’s worth joining up and membership fees are some of the lowest around.

#3: SwingerLifestyle.com

SLS is a very large swinging community which lets you find out where all the action is happening. You can send video messages, talk in a live chat, or exchange thoughts and fantasies on the site’s forums, so there’s plenty to do.

Creating a profile is easy and profiles are quite detailed. Members fill in text boxes to answer questions so it’s very easy to find people who suit your personal preferences.

There are many couples looking for fun but there are also lots of singles who are looking for one on one dating with another person who enjoys the swinging lifestyle.

The free membership is quite good as well, but to get the best from the website it’s better to have premium membership as it gives you a lot more control over who can or can’t see your profile in searches.

Swingerlifestyle does work and is getting people together from all over the world. If you are looking for a swinging partner, you have a great chance of finding one here.

 

#2: SDC.com

SDC is not as visually exciting as many other dating sites and the features are not as good as those elsewhere, but this site is one of the best places to be if you want to meet anyone into swinging. There is a big community feel to SDC and members give tips, share experiences, make friends, and generally have a good time.

The very large and active online community focuses mainly on getting people together at events, parties, and hook-ups. Searches can be location based or based on your personal preferences. The website offers forums and chat rooms as well as a “voyeur cam” if you are feeling adventurous.

Anyone into the swinging experience can find what they are looking for on SDC.

#1: AdultFriendFinder.com

AdultFriendFinder has over 60 million active members worldwide and all of them are looking for adult fun of some kind. This site offers so many features and the profiles are very in-depth. Users can even upload a video onto their profile as well as explicit pictures.

The free membership is also quite good and it’s easy to connect with others even if you do not have a premium membership, although premium membership is the best in order to be able to connect with users easily. There are a lot of public and private chat rooms to allow users to interact with each other and of course, there is an instant messaging feature.

Users can also view other members live webcam broadcasts and broadcast their own. AdultFriendFinder also has a Sex Academy that you can take part in for a small fee. The search facility is great and you can even search other members according to their star sign, location, sexual preferences, and much more.

This website is the place to go to find a swinging partner.

Now you’ve read the best swinger dating sites reviews all you need to do now is creating your profiles and starting having some fun.

Shawn Yale is a voice for the voiceless in the LGBTQIA community and has been writing for over a decade on topics related to the successes, suppression, and insecurities faced by the community.

Watch The Sinclair Institute’s Dr. Lori Buckley discuss swinging and how it affects your marriage.

Swingers are hosting Great British Bake Off-style cake-making contests to spice up their orgies

The bonking bakers are giving out sexual prizes for best buns and then use the baked goods for their orgies

 The online ad for the Leeds based swingers party said single fellas must pay a £25 entry fee

The online ad for the Leeds based swingers party said single fellas must pay a £25 entry fee.

And party planners are hoping they will be packed to the rafters with crumpet – and no doubt plenty of soggy bottoms.

The hosts of GBBO are known for their love of smutty remarks when discussing contestants’ creations with hot baps, dough balls and erect biscuits all tickling the viewing audience.

But they might find what is being cooked-up in a penthouse in Leeds later this month hard to stomach.

The organisers tell would-be bakers on an internet sex site that there’s £25 entrance fee for single blokes – plus guests must bring a cake a fiver contribution to a leading cancer charity.

They also say there will be “three greedy girls” on hand to satisfy guests’ appetites.

And they reveal that it isn’t just a cake-admiring day – as their creations will be devoured to fuel the afternoon antics.

 The hosts of Bake Off are known for their smutty innuendos such as soggy bottom and erect biscuits

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The hosts of Bake Off are known for their smutty innuendos such as soggy bottom and erect biscuits

They tell punters “Hi guys, my friend and I are launching a new monthly sex club to be held at a luxury penthouse apartment in Leeds.

“Entry will be a £25 donation to costs for single males, numbers will be kept strictly controlled, and there will be a minimum of three greedy girls and two couples ready to play.

“Bring your own drinks and all items like condoms, towels etc will be provided. The place has two showers and a bathroom so everyone can get clean after getting filthy.

“The first party is scheduled for 15 September from noon til 4pm.

The ’70s Swingers Club and the Secret Archive It Left Behind

JACK EL-HAI

From GQ.com

The most unorthodox aspect of Minneapolis’s Silver Chain club wasn’t the partner-swapping—it was the notes that two members kept.

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In the early ’70s, four satiated but dissatisfied couples on their way home to Minnesota from a social event in a distant state reignited a conversation they’d been having about their gripe. Having to pack up and travel to meet like-minded people was a big bother. Surely there was a way to meet more people like them close to home. Other swingers.

So they made a plan. If they combined efforts, they thought, they could start their own swingers club and create a scene right in their own town. They could swing more often and with more people. These couples called themselves the Executive Committee of their new outfit. They didn’t yet suspect what it would be like to herd swingers and guard their privacy.

The group they started, the Silver Chain Social Club, brought to life the hopeful vision of its eight founders, along with a grave concern for the secrecy of its conventional-seeming, suburban members. Club activities—events like bowling dates, costume parties, panel discussions, and support groups—were for socializing only, and members were supposed to swap partners and have sex on their own time. (“We wanted the club to operate on a high plane—first class always,” a founder reminisced.) The founders hoped that members could quietly recognize each other in public by displaying the jewelry that gave the club its name. The Executive Committee really wanted those trademark silver chains to have “77” pendants—honoring a favorite sexual position (69) plus eight (ate) more. (Get it?)—but the plan fell through. “Our efforts to find a manufacturer at a reasonable cost have been fruitless,” ended the dream.

I know this much about the Silver Chain’s meetings, hundreds of members, and guiding principles because these materials, which span from 1974 to 1978, are available for viewing in the sedate, high-ceilinged reading room of the Minnesota Historical Society. Two members preserved by-laws, newsletters, correspondence, and, perhaps dangerously, dating-app-esque profiles (with a first name but only a last initial). In the early 1990s, the records were found in a safe deposit box at First Bloomington Lake National Bank, and the papers made their way to the state’s historical agency via a Minnesota law that gives the Society first claim to abandoned historic materials. They may be the only such records preserved anywhere in the world in a historical archive, and they give a rare look into the sometimes mundane, often unexpected workings of a swingers club just trying to keep track of its sexy ongoings.

The early ’70s were free love, suburban suffocation, and feminism on the rise. All over America, people were reexamining relationships and marriage. Swinging might have spun out of the organized partner swapping of U.S. military pilots who flew in World War II and the Korean Conflict. It blossomed during the decade along with communal living, gay liberation, and extra-legal domestic partnerships—all attempts to break the numbing shackles of button-down lifestyles. Studies from the era (most flawed and unreliable, to be fair) put the number of swingers in the American population at 2 to 4 percent, but only a small number of them tried to take on the role of a sexual community board to organize fellow believers.

By 1974, the Silver Chain’s Executive Committee had drawn up a playful set of rules and regulations that laid out the club’s purpose: to allow members to meet, mingle, and share “general good times.” Couples over 21 could join by invitation only with the good word of an established member who could vouch for their dedication to swinging. No spectators allowed. No single members, either. While many “straight” people—that’s swinger parlance for “non-swingers”—imagined “wife swapping” (as it was then sometimes called) as a sordid, hormone-charged activity for perverts, Silver Chain members went out of their way to emphasize courtesy and deference in their relationships. It was swinging infused with Minnesota Nice.

“Respect for other members, their property and feelings, must be uppermost in everyone’s mind at all times,” the by-laws dictated. “If you do not wish to socialize with any particular member, merely mention that you would rather not at this time, and leave it at that. Those who are turned down should accept the turndown gracefully, and move on to socialize with others.” Drunkenness and use of foul language could lead to expulsion from the club.

Much of the Silver Chain’s crowd—many of them churchgoers—had one great fear: that their families, reputations, and jobs would be ruined if their swinging secrets got out.

It was all about building close and intimate friendships, beginning with social events at such local hotspots as Bloomington’s faux-American-Indian Thunderbird Motel and the red-sauce-ladling Venetian Inn in the suburb of Little Canada. These Silver Chainers were dedicated: When the club celebrated its third anniversary in 1976, about 90 couples showed up with the outdoor temperature close to -20 degrees Fahrenheit.

Silver Chain members believed that their tight group placed them at the vanguard of people seeking connection at the dawning of a new age of sexual freedom, when recognizing and giving in to personal fantasies could lead to less distrust and frustration in marriage. And Silver Chain surveys, though unscientific, supported the belief that swinging was good for marriage. In one, with a majority of the members describing themselves as married with kids, a strong majority of both men and women members said swinging boosted their marriages.

Not that Silver Chain members were in it just for the kink. “Sex was a very secondary thing,” one club member wrote. “The people, the fun, and the tender loving care were so far out front of everything else.” Members were welcomed into swingers groups around the country. One local swinger, in an interview with the Star Tribune, somewhat unsexily compared swinging to being a Mason. “It’s a brotherhood in a way,” he said. Another member published in the Silver Chain newsletter a “swingers creed” that promoted tolerance for the hang-ups of others and an exaltation of the emotional involvement “properly reserved for a spouse.”

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Despite (or maybe because of) such high-minded sentiments, actually getting down to the business of swinging sometimes proved a problem. The Executive Committee pleaded with members to quiet down and pay attention at events during the reading of announcements. One Silver Chainer complained in the newsletter that sex too infrequently followed the partying. At one event, members tried to break the impasse by stripping others of their clothing. Even though not everyone was completely naked and some hadn’t disrobed at all, it helped.

Meanwhile, Silver Chain’s women built solidarity by exploring the intersection of swinging and women’s liberation. They held discussions, group readings, and rap sessions on feminism. None of this stopped the Executive Committee from monthly and annually electing Silver Chain “personalities” who were featured in the newsletter like Playboy Playmates (though they got to keep their clothes on). One honoree from 1976 declared in a newsletter that the choice “has made me THE PROUDEST WOMAN IN MINNESOTA!”

The Silver Chain’s archival file, a 139-page file in a single folder, covers a fleeting five years during the mid-’70s. The final item in the file, a newsletter from June 1978, lays out a busy summer of activities: campouts, softball games, and a picnic. What happened later, no one recorded.

But we do know that the Executive Committee reserved for itself the right to “cease activities whenever its organizers decide to do so.” Maybe after a decade or so of swinging, the four founding couples decided to get out of the game. Maybe the growing AIDS epidemic spooked them. Maybe the club carried on. Or maybe living this life in shadows stopped having an allure for the Silver Chain gang.

The grand irony of the Silver Chain’s experiment with open relationships was that everyone involved was, understandably, obsessed with keeping secrets. Although the Executive Committee “kept in strictest confidence” a full record of the names and other identifying information, members usually addressed each other by first name only. Much of the Silver Chain’s crowd—many of them churchgoers—had one great fear: that their families, reputations, and jobs would be ruined if their swinging secrets got out. Most discussed their swinging sides only with other club members, and certainly not with neighbors, relatives, or children.

The possibility of exposure to their kids so terrified some members that a contributor to the newsletter covered it at length. When calling another member on the phone, be sure you’re talking to the right person. Though maybe, the writer noted, a child’s accidental discovery that mom and dad were swingers wouldn’t be the end of the world: “If there is genuine love between the parents and the children can see no deterioration of this loving relationship, but instead can detect a new closeness, a happiness, and a glow that they can associate with their parents’ new chosen lifestyle, they will probably accept this relationship as no threat to the family.”

Most living members from the club’s peak years would now be sexagenarians or older. I could track down only one of them, a former club officer.* Disabled by illness, she has difficulty speaking, according to a family member. Though she and the others concealed their second lives well, they bravely challenged cultural norms to express themselves and enjoy a passion that, if it ever came out, could have wrecked their lives. On top of that, two mysterious members recorded what they were doing, preserved it, celebrated it.

They probably never expected their archive to be dusted off and opened up to the world, but it’s a humanizing glimpse into a purposeful way of life that was lived in the dark. And who knows what other secrets still survive as coiled chains in dusty jewelry boxes?

*Though names in the Silver Chain archive are technically public, we’ve chosen not to out any members.

Vagina Nails Are The Latest Nail Trend To Sweep Instagram

 Because, Yay Vulvas!

 

Not all trends always make sense in society honestly. I’ll never understand why some guys still wear their pants halfway off their waist or why some girls rock cropped tops with regular waisted pants – but, I am no one to judge because I love to go out without a bra on – to each their own.

There are some trends that appear online and make me question the originator’s decision to begin said trend. Like, for example, Vagina Nail Art.

I’ve heard of people doing some wild things to their pubic areas – like Vajazzling and Contouring – but decorating their nails with vulvas is a whole new level of out there. Your nails are indeed, something everyone sees on an everyday basis so putting vaginas on there is a bit ballsy (bad pun).

In retrospect, I do believe that women would embrace this in another way to promote – Girl Power. Yes, I mean #PussyPower. In trying times like these in our great nation – what better way to take a stand than putting your genitals on your fingertips?

So – who’s down to get their vulva on with me?

Vaginas absolutely need sex or they’ll waste away: study

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It’s a painful condition that can leave you itching, even burning down there — and no, it’s not a sexually transmitted infection!

Just when you thought you had enough to worry about after realizing having a “depressed” vagina is a thing, women are also at risk of vaginal atrophy.

Vaginal atrophy is a common but treatable condition that causes the vaginal wall to thin.

And while it can be a problem for women of any age, it’s more likely to affect women who are going through, or have been through, menopause.

This is because the body produces less estrogen than normal, which has an effect on how the vaginal wall behaves.

Vaginal atrophy can also occur in women who have been treated for cancer, especially in those who have had hormone treatment for breast cancer, according to the Mayo Clinic.

Common symptoms include discharge, burning, itching, difficulty peeing and pain during sex.

This might seem like enough to put you off having sex for good, but regular orgasms — from your partner or a bit of self-love — can actually ward off the nasty symptoms.

And the key is the increased blood flow to your nether regions when you climax — it works almost like a “workout” down there.

Louise Mazanti, a London-based sex therapist, said: “It is very important that we have a healthy sex life with a partner or with ourselves.”

“People very often say, ‘I don’t have a sex life because I don’t have a partner.’”

“But forget about that and have a sexual relationship with yourself.”

“It’s about using massage and touching the tissue so that it becomes alive, the blood flows and the tissue becomes elastic.”

“It is really about exercising the tissue.”

Increasing blood flow increases oxygen supply to the vagina, which means it is less likely to become inflamed, thin or dry.

According to Mazanti, if cells are not getting enough oxygen, they cannot eliminate waste from the tissue, which can cause inflammation that leads to problems such as vaginal atrophy.

A buildup of toxins can also stop vital nutrients from getting to the cells, which can leave the tissue slightly weaker and thinner.

Mazanti also said losing the ability to have sex is not just a physical problem, it can have some serious side effects on a person’s mental health.

She added: “When your ability to have sex and your desire to have sex decreases, it is a massive change in identity.”

“You start to question ‘who am I now if I am not the sexual woman I used to be?’”

“It can cause depression and an identity crisis and deep consideration of an existential nature.”

What are the main symptoms of vaginal atrophy?

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Depending on how severe the condition is, you may experience a variety of symptoms, including:

  • Dryness
  • Burning sensation, particularly when you pee
  • Discharge
  • Itching
  • Urgency to pee
  • Urinary tract infections
  • Incontinence
  • Light bleeding after sex
  • Discomfort during sex
  • Dryness during sex
  • A shortening or tightening of the vagina

What causes the condition?

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Vaginal atrophy is generally caused by a decrease in the production of the female sex hormone estrogen.

Estrogen is the main hormone that regulates a woman’s menstrual cycle and controls ovulation.

It is also responsible for thickening the vaginal wall and causes it to release mucous once a girl hits puberty.

So if you stop producing estrogen, the walls of your vagina can become thin and dry.

Vaginal atrophy is most common in women who have gone through the menopause, but certain cancer treatments and hormone treatments can also cause it.

Women who are smokers, who have never had a vaginal birth or do not have sex or pleasure themselves are also more at risk.

Smoking affects your blood circulation, resulting in the vagina and other tissues not getting enough oxygen.

It also reduces the effects of estrogen.

How can vaginal atrophy be treated?

Vaginal moisturizers and lubricants can be used to treat dryness and help improve your sex life.

You may have to apply moisturizer every two to three days but the effects usually last longer than lube.

A lubricant is used mainly to make sex easier and more enjoyable.

If symptoms don’t improve, over-the-counter estrogen therapy may be recommended.

Creams can be inserted into the vagina daily to restore the tissue.

Estrogen tablets may also be recommended to help restore the body’s natural levels.