A week in the racy life of a young swinger couple

SOME couples go out to dinner on the weekend. Alice and Eric go to swingers parties and have sex with strangers.

FIVE years ago, Alice and her husband Eric* were your average young married couple. Today, they are minor celebrities in Australia’s swinging community, having sex with dozens of other people every month.

Here’s a tantalising glimpse into Alice’s average week.

FRIDAY

I slipped off in my lunch break to go lingerie shopping. I needed a hot new outfit for the weekend. Some people love latex and leather but not me so much. I feel sexiest and most feminine when I’m wearing delicate lace. I love when it’s sheer enough that you can see through the fabric. I have a penchant for stay-up stockings too.

As I slide my hands over the new bra I feel a thrill of electricity for the coming weekend. I send my husband, Eric* photos of myself in the change room with some steamy sext action. It inspires me to quickly get myself off right there before heading back to work. I feel smug at my desk all afternoon and count the minutes until the weekend.

It’s lace all the way. Picture: iStock

SATURDAY

Some couples like to go out for dinner or go out dancing on the weekend, but we like to go to swingers clubs or parties and get playful.

We didn’t always play with others. After a couple of years of marriage and a couple more together prior to that, I told Eric that I had a fantasy of being pleasured by two men at once. I just imagined it would stay a naughty fantasy. The idea of another man f**king me got Eric so wild that night he suggested we look into it. That was the turning point for our relationship.

When we get to the club it’s very relaxed these days. In the beginning I was a little nervous or shy but after three years we’re considered regulars on the scene. It’s just like catching up with friends, except all our friends come with sweet benefits.

Eric and I have rules. We only play together, never apart. The whole idea is that this enhances our love life so being able to see, if not touch, each other at all times is a must.

I love watching Eric with another woman across the room. I know he’s an incredible lover, so seeing him go down on someone, watching her writhe under his expert tongue while someone is sliding into me blows my mind every time. It’s surreal and delicious, feeling my own pleasure rise and peak while I watch my partner bring someone else to the brink.

Saturday nights are late nights. We catch a cab home together and debrief about the evening. We climb into bed exhausted but satisfied. Falling asleep in Eric’s arms is always my favourite part of a play day.

Alice and Eric are regulars on the swinger club scene. Picture: iStock

SUNDAY

Sunday is fun day. After a sleep in, we lie in bed with coffee and rehash the evening, which usually ends leads to another romp.

We invite some swinger friends over for a casual BBQ. One of the best things about being part of our community is that we are super social and enjoy hanging out with like-minded people.

Eric and I have one particular couple we both love to spend time with. Most of the time one of you likes someone in a couple more than the other, or your partner is keen and you’re not so much. When the chemistry is good between the four of you, your senses simply explode. A cacophony of hands touching you, mouths all over your body. The sensory overload is awesome.

MONDAY

Eric works in finance in the city and I’m an IT consultant. Our work friends have no idea what we do for fun and if they did, frankly, I think their brains would burst.

Monday night we just hang out like any regular couple. No crazy outfits or toys. We see our lifestyle as an added extra to an already beautiful relationship, not something we have to do every day to keep things spicy.

We usually crash early after our busy weekend.

TUESDAY

I like to do my sexy admin on Tuesdays. I know admin is usually not sexy but this is a little different. I have a blog where I write about our swinging adventures.

I love to write about our lifestyle because I’m proud of the fact that we share each other and take joy in each other’s sexual exploration and pleasure. I think more couples would benefit from it but I don’t tell my work colleagues or family for obvious reasons so the blog is my opportunity to share freely.

Family members and colleagues have no idea what goes on in the couple’s bedroom. Picture: iStock

Sometimes people contact me through the blog, or the club we go to will send newbies my way if they need some more information about what happens and what to expect from coming to one of our play nights.

I love introducing new people to our community and helping them to feel safe and comfortable exploring their fantasies.

WEDNESDAY

We catch up with a playmate Alexis* for a meal after work and take her home for some sexy fun.

Alexis is a stunning unicorn who has curves for days that we both fancy the hell out of. A unicorn is a single lady who likes to play with couples … aptly named because they’re pretty rare.

We both love her company, but she’s perfect because she sees us as equal playmates and nothing more. Sometimes it can be tricky when feelings get involved. Eric and I know that we are solid and Alexis totally gets it.

We chat and eat, go home for dynamite sex and then she leaves. That’s another rule we have. Our bed is only for us to sleep in. Anyone can come to play, but when it’s lights out, it’s always just us.

THURSDAY

I give myself one day where I do all the self-care I need to feel hot for my lovers. Depending on what’s needed I get my hair done, a spray tan or a wax. Sometimes I get a pedi or even just a massage. Taking care of myself helps me feel sexy and more in tune with my body.

I feel that swinging has helped me feel sexier than ever. I feel desirable, I feel in touch with my sexuality and I know that exploring this side of ourselves has enhanced not only our sex life, but also our love for each other.

*Names have been changed.